quote:And this is when we are not even articulating what it is exactly we are looking for/hoping for. The mere suggestion of wanting the best possible mate brings out this filthy crap. Just like I said all the way back on Page 2. I would certainly not participate in any discussion where I actually detailed what I'm looking for in a mate, just so people could glide right over what I actually say and launch into their histrionics. Perhaps the other ladies want to go down that road.
First, thanks for the love. Nothing wrong with a spirited discussion! I think any set of criteria can be subject to analysis. Getting to the base reasons for preferences can be very enlightening. I'm curious about the women's preferences here & what drives those preferences. I do recognize that challenging a person's values & beliefs is the quickest way to create tension, but it's also a good way to garner understanding.
This discussion can be whatever the participants choose to make it.