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Reply to "I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa"

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Here's a helpful hint - If you see a thread in the Den started by RadioRaheem and you click it and pictures start to come up, click your Back button and leave the thread!


I don't need to click on every thread to know what to expect.

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The images must make you very uncomfortable, because you've lead the counter campaign.


Considering the media already bombards us with images of Black women as sluts and hoes, yes I do find these images offensive, and I do become uncomfortable looking at them. I imagine it's the same feeling that you may get whenever you turn on the news to see yet another Black man being handcuffed and hauled off to jail. My purpose for visiting African-America.org, and other progressive venues, is to get away from these demonizing images of Black people. Because I chose not to participate in the discussion Eye Candy for Sandye, I created a thread entitled Are Women Being Socially Conditioned To Be Attracted To Emasculate Men , which was created to challenge some women's ideas of masculinity, based on the pictures that I viewed in the Eye Candy for Sandye thread. Perhaps you should review it.

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If the men we described are keepers, why is there a "man shortage"? Because the criteria set is excluding them, that's why.


There are certain occupations that this society values more than others. Janitor, maintenance man, trash man, and mail clerk are not those occupations. Whether the people who fill such positions are "good people" is irrelevant. These are not occupations that this society values. Perhaps it is because these occupations require very little skill, education, and they pay much less than occupations that require specialized skills and years of educational preparation. In London, for example, teachers are highly valued and very well paid, and their professional status is equivalent to that of a physician in the United States. Do I think that is unfair. YES. Can I do anything about it. NO.

Lastly, some aspects of our society have dramatically changed, while others have (and perhaps always will) remain the same. Though women are now capable of working and educating themselves, they are still expected to increase their wealth and status via marriage. Therefore, realistically speaking, what are the odds of a woman who has a Ph.D, and who is perhaps directing a staff at a major hospital, having anything in common with the local janitor? What would they discuss on a daily basis? This is not an issue of whether or not janitors are "good" or "bad" people, but of realistic compatibility.

Plese consider reading the article Women and The African-American Male-Female Relationship Dilemma: A Counseling Perspective by Patricia Davis-Bethea located in AA.org's Relationship Forum in order to get a better understanding of Black women's concerns in this respect.
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