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Reply to "I finally found the Black women's reply to the "Where is the love?'" from Tampa"

I will respectfully disagree with portions of your post. To suggest men only view things in the short term is suspect. To further assert that looks rule over all is suspect. Many of us said that core values & personality carry the day. The physical is the initial attractor, but not the permanent attractor. What that means is a less attractive women with personality has to work a little harder to get a guy to stick around to notice those core values. The same applies for men. Is that fair? Maybe not, but it's honest.

A person can have degrees, status, & wealth and still be lousy in relationships. So choosing by those criteria guarantees nothing.

No one said the ladies do not deserve "doctors or Denzel's" (we know it's metaphor & hyperbole, so stop telling us that ladies!) or dream men. They do! We are trying to understand what is ultimately important to ladies in finding a mate. And yes, there are some commonalities that can be brought forth. Once those common core qualities are stated (because they haven't been!), maybe we can have honest, sincere discussion & assessment of the criteria.
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