now you are using charm as a 'weapon'! 
No I do understand the sistas frustrations. I have my own living here, lol - but we better not go there or I'll get into all sorts of trouble. Real and imagined.
I think women here truly are trying to answer your question. Far be it for me to put words in their mouth. But the good thing is they are talking about it - and you guys are responding. So whether there is a bit of drama or not is in fact GOOD coz you are both chipping away at it. It being communicating.
I think we are all a mix of reality and fantasy. My reality is that I want a man smart enough that I can learn from, and emotionally intelligent enough not to see every discussion as a contest. My fantasy is a Dijmon-artist-type guy
who would probably have an ego the size of North America, and therefore make me miserable. What would happen if all our preconceptions were real? It would be a boring planet. We need surprises... poetic janitors, doctors with macabre humour, engineers who stargaze....
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