quote:Originally posted by Rowe:
I'm beginning to see why Sister Frenchy and others have abandoned this discussion. No one is making the argument that the men you've described are not "keepers" or worthy of love. Frenchy has not even discussed what her criteria is! In fact, no woman in this forum has yet to tell you that she values any of the type of men that you and Honestbrother have spent the last few pages accusing us of valuing. Therefore, your characterizations of her ideal man are largely based on stereotypes and generalizations, and applying these generalizations to her and any other Black woman on this site is unfair.
Rowe, You are VERY correct here. No one gave any criteria . But if you noticed I did try to tease her (Frenchy's) criteria out of her. Maybe I did a poor job. But I would have loved to know her criteria.
What I found most interesting is that NO ONE - except Art Gurl - denied the criteria I was perhaps falsely imputing. That's what I was waiting for. A plausible denial. Frenchy went so far as to explicitly state that ALL the examples I gave were beneath her - I was a little shocked actually. What I got instead of a denial was people reinforcing with their own words the opposition between janitors and high status "cream". That made me think I was on to something.
So you ladies can give a lecture but you can't take one?