Here's a helpful hint - If you see a thread in the Den started by RadioRaheem and you click it and pictures start to come up, click your Back button and leave the thread! You probably don't want to see what's in there!
Have you castigated the thread starter of Eye Candy in A Sista's Spot? If I or other men here think those photos are tasteless, should we post pictures to counter that? Most of us would say NO - Know why? We don't care - It's your fantasy. Look at whomever you like, posed however. Most importantly, we are not threatened by the images. We (Men at AA.org) know the images in the Den do not represent reality. The images must make you very uncomfortable, because you've lead the counter campaign. At least be honest like RadioRaheem. He owns up to posting some of the pictures just to elicit a rise out some of the members here (pun intended & unintended ) and to make a point.
I never assumed the results would be unfavorable - that is your projection. I said don't blame us for the results. If you go fishing for salmon in a trout pond, it's not the trout's fault if you come home empty-handed. Search the threads here about the "man shortage". Read the content of posts from the ladies. Clearly, a criteria has been set & has not been met in the eyes of the ladies. Men have standards as well, we just don't gripe as much about our dating challenges. We don't gripe as much about our poor choices either. IF the men we described are keepers, why is there a "man shortage"? Because the criteria set is excluding them, that's why.
Your sisters have abandoned the discussion because they don't want to hear what we're saying. It's easier for it just to be our fault. That assessment requires no self-reflection. Did you read that Ruby Dee quote? That's what we want from our women.