quote:You have attempted to guide & instruct the men here regarding our choices. You have attempted to tell us what we have to do be acceptable mates.
"A Black Woman Desires Either Thugs or Ballers--WRONG!!!"
Again, I haven't instructed anyone on how to do anything. What I have done, however, was to provide on the Sistas Spot (a forum that has been specifically designed to host discussions of interest to women) photos that are alternative to the tasteless photos being posted in The Den--I thought the Sistas would appreciate seeing more dignified images of Black women, and more importantly, images of women with which they can more readily identify. Thus, those images were posted to show others the type of women that I (emphasis on I) find attractive, not to provide any specific instruction on how to pick women.
quote:Develop whatever criteria you like, but don't blame us for the results of setting your criteria.
Brother, why must you automatically jump to the conclusion that the results will be unfavorable? Do you think that it is impossible for a woman to eventually find herself an adequate partner until she has been blessed with a man's opinion? Moreover, you seem to find satisfaction in believing making poor choices is something that is unique to women, specifically Black women. However, making poor choices is not something that only women do, it is something that ALL OF US have done (you included). Yes, men are also guilty of choosing women for shallow reasons. Do you think Donald Trump, for example, married Melania Knauss because of her brains and intellect??? Not likely. He married this woman because she is young and beautiful. And when her youth expires, she will be replaced for the same shallow reasons that all of his other wives have been replaced. Some may describe Trump's mate selection as making "poor choices," but ultimately, it is his life to live, not ours.
quote:Does my friend at the Ford plant get no love? Do you even listen to him long enough to know he's a poet, mentor, and entrepreneur? That's a real brother I know, ready to get married & start a family.
I'm beginning to see why Sister Frenchy and others have abandoned this discussion. No one is making the argument that the men you've described are not "keepers" or worthy of love. Frenchy has not even discussed what her criteria is! In fact, no woman in this forum has yet to tell you that she values any of the type of men that you and Honestbrother have spent the last few pages accusing us of valuing. Therefore, your characterizations of her ideal man are largely based on stereotypes and generalizations, and applying these generalizations to her and any other Black woman on this site is unfair.