quote:...she should be able to pursue such a man if she so chooses, whether that be a Denzel or whomever--that is her business. Women are not children that require guidance or direction. Women are grown adults just as men are adults, responsible for making their own decisions.
Pot. Kettle. Black.
We understand the argument, but like I mentioned a few pages back, it sets up a catch-22. Develop whatever criteria you like, but don't blame us for the results of setting your criteria. Judging by some of the threads here, we are being convicted with flimsy evidence! Does my friend at the Ford plant get no love? Do you even listen to him long enough to know he's a poet, mentor, and entrepreneur? That's a real brother I know, ready to get married & start a family. But because he's not in the "ideal package" today, he's still single. No lady here has explained (and the question has been asked multiple times, across multiple threads!) what does career choice or education have to do with being an ideal mate. Is a brother ignorant if he does not have a degree? Is a brother not worthwhile without a high-status career? How do know that the "Average Joe" doesn't have the core values & personality traits to make you happy?
P.S. Substance is more difficult to find in a mate, whether you're a man or woman. HonestBrother, relax. Sooner or later, some of the ladies will realize that you (and brothers like you) are keepers. Unfortunately, some of them will realize it right around the time you are no longer available! Keep ya' head up!