quote:Originally posted by AudioGuy:
*I know I'm gonna "catch it" for this, but...*
I think that by virtue of the fact that there more women than there are men, limits the choices of women severely... If a woman is then "holding out" for a "Denzel the doctor" does that really make sense??
This is NOT the point, AG. No one is encouraging women to date only a Denzel. No one is saying Denzels are the only quality men. No one is saying that we want the right to hold out for a Denzel. WOMEN SHOULD HAVE THE OPTION OF STRIVING FOR A "DENZEL" WITHOUT HEARING A BUNCH OF FRIGGIN LIP ABOUT HOW WE NEED TO REFOCUS/REVISE/RETHINK BECAUSE WE DON'T DESERVE IT OR BECAUSE WE'RE NOT GIVING THE "LOWER-RUNG" OF BROTHAS A CHANCE OR WHATEVER OTHER REASON. The same way that men can strive for the prettiest available woman (or whatever it is that ddouble goes for since he takes offense to the idea that men put looks first). Let us want whatever the Hell it is we want! Sure, we may end up with something else when all is said and done, but this rush by Black men to immediately shoot down any of the Black woman's romantic/relationship aspirations is ridiculously overdone! Please phrase that in a way your brothers will understand because they are not trying to hear it coming from me.
quote:I also think, based upon my observation - however limited it may be, that a man will date/marry a woman regardless of her station in life... she could be working on the fryer at Mickey D's, but if she's cute she has almost as good a shot at getting a mate as a sister with a phd.
Funny that ddouble would give your quote applause when he thinks this idea is off the mark.
quote:Let a brother say "I'm in charge of the fries at Mickey D's" and see how far he gets - regardless of his looks!!
Why should we reduce ourselves down to taking up with whoever is cute?? We expect more because we're smarter. And because we have more responsibilities.
quote:So I say date who you want, but realize the limitations of your situations. (just call me JESSE )
Why do men feel compelled to even contribute this? Do you think there is a Black woman alive who does not "realize the limitations" of her situation? Because we talk about the limitations of our situation on quite a regular basis. Even when people swear blind that there are no limitations to our damn situation and it's all a myth, but that's another thread. Argh!