quote:Originally posted by HonestBrother:quote:Originally posted by Frenchy:
I'm only saying that there is such a thing as the "cream of the crop" and that is what I am referring to when I talk about each gender being allowed to pursue "the best" freely without being admonished to settle for something less.
You keep waffling here. Are you saying that you want to be able to fantasize about getting these men or are you honest to goodness really wanting the right to hold out for the status-symbol-trophy-husband? Fantasies are free.
And you have the right do hold out for whatever you want anyway. If that's what you're about then you just have to ignore what people say. But if what you're really saying is that this what to shoot for then I know I'm going to get a lot of hate for what I'm about to say. But the women who pine after these status-symbol-trophy-husbands-Lamborghini men (Denzel, Doctor, Lawyer types) then complain that "there are no men" when they can't find one DESERVE to be single.
I get sick of women who make like the only choices are between a doctor and a fast food worker. There are many professional men. Many men who go to college. Who are going somewhere. And who are single because they ain't no damn 6 figure earning Doctor. It's either you're earning 6 figures or you a broke nigger. It's unrealistic. Not only that but it shoves us men into rigid stereotypes and is an insult to anybody who is a STRIVER but doesn't pursue a mere handful of career paths. What about your black artists? Sculptors? Writers? Painters? Engineers? Accountants? Scholars? Dentists? Community Activists? We have some of those you know? These aren't cream of the crop? And they're deserving men.
Its unrealistic even if you were a white woman to hold out for a Doctor. It's even more unrealistic for black women given the numbers. I know I'll get hate. But dammit its true.
And you can complain about a double standard all you want but I don't hear the guys belly aching about there not being any women ... There are a ton of women. They just have awful attitudes.
Now let the hatin' begin....
I still think you are missing the point.
I believe Frenchy is complaining that women get dogged for wanting a particular guy(whether it be "the cream of the crop" or not) while guys are not dogged for wanting a particular women(whether it be the "cream of the crop" or not)