Sista Sunnubian wrote: I believe that America cannot get serious about child sexual abuse because of the fact that there are so many child sexual predators in America in the first place, and because so many are in such 'high' places or have friends in 'high' places, that almost any progress made against predators is stopped or stagnated by people who have a vested interest in curtailing punishments, sentences and laws that should already be in place to put an end to pedophilia in America.
So, 'hurt people, do hurt people' but they are not supposed to. No one has the right to hurt another person because they have been hurt. And if you are an adult, you know better than to do anything as egregious as pedophilia no matter what has happened to you as a child or any other time. Outside of mental retardation or complete insanity, no adult has ANY excuse for molesting or having sex with children.
There is no excuse. Bottom line. Children deserve their childhood without the threat of sexual harm. Period. No discussion.
But, at the same time, I don't get how most parents just refuse to change with the times where their children are concerned. There used to be a time when your kids could be outside playing by themselves, sometimes for hours, without anything happening to them. There used to be a time when you didn't have to give a second thought to your child going on a 'sleepover' at a friend's home, and there definitely used to be a time when your child's teacher was the last person you would have had to worry about molesting your child, BUT, those times have changed, those times have BEEN changed, and it makes no sense that so many parents are still trying to parent as if it's still the 50s, or even the 40s or something.
And then there are parents who want to be their children's friend. Who allow them to smoke cigarettes and some times marijuana...and focus on clothes/shoes and image not education and social decorum.
And then the parents who throw their own the kids under the bus cuz that's how they were raised even though how they were raised was wrong. Don't wanna change. Don't wanna look at things realistically. And the worse thing parents can do is not talk to their kids and let them know about the world around them. I am soooooooooooo grateful I grew in the era that I did. Cuz black folks made sure their children was aware at all time and acquire the social decorum to mingle and engage socially. Kids today don't have that either. So no you can't trust the neigbhorhood Uncle Ted anymore-I blame that on foreigners bringing their backward third world twisted patriarchal mindset to this country. Many of em don't respect women....and engage in that behavior in their own country. It was always here don't get me wrong...but! It was never to this level. And I'm pissed that psychologists ARE NOT talking about this...cuz this is the reason why homosexuality is sky high. Abuse the child...and don't get him treatment. It's bound to happen. Cuz many times he thinks it's his fault and maybe he was born gay...cuz pedophiles keep bothering him. That;s not the truth but that's how kids think. They're not adults. We need to understand as well. Their mind are not fully developed until 24-26 ish. And even then there is lot of milk STILL on their breath.
And western hemisphere is the only place where children have a true childhood. In other places in the Asia, eastern Europe, the mediterrean, Africa and the middle east, children do not have childhoods. They are treated like little adults when they are in fact...CHILDREN. And are abused because of it. Which is another problem the world has. Cuz many times these children are not educated and grow up to believe this is the way it is supposed to be and it is not.
More parents need to watch their children more than they do, and not allow everybody and their mama to "babysit" their children, and the need to talk to their children about child predators, perverts, and inappropriate 'touch' and behaviors of adults or older children toward a child.
Every deviate behavior known to humanity has only grown/increased with the times, nothing has stayed the same, especially child sexual abuse, so today's parents have to change, and have to change their parenting styles to be vigilante against potential pedophiles, and to protect their from child predators, whether they be complete strangers, family members or friends or neighbors.
We need laws that will actually put child predators away from society FOREVER, and we need parents to actually PARENT their own children by today's necessities.
I totally agree. But!