quote:she is a teenager now
She's not to young to understand relationships. Someone just needs to have a talk with her and understand that it's not easy for the child.
I don't know if most people know that the relationship is leading to marriage after only a few months.
But I would think that the two people should have at least established if the relationship is exclusive. Once they reach that point then the child can start to be introduced to the other person. But I still think it should be in small doses. If and when the relationship leads to marriage THEN the child can have more expose before telling them that the two want to make the relationship permanent.
quote:What I am saying is that if you are going to seriously date this woman (and maybe eventually marry her), she needs to be just as important. You can't continuously give your relationship the shaft and expect it to be healthy
I agree. You need to show the other person that they are important. But the article is saying that the other person has to realize that they may not take 1st priority and there are things to deal with when dating a single parent.
When I went out with single mothers, many times I had to deal with not being first priority, even if I knew that they had feelings for me. But I think it comes down to parents realizing that it is ok to have a life outside of the children. You are not a bad parent if you do something for yourself. I dated single mothers that felt guilty if they bought themselves some new and much needed items like panties instead of something for the kids.