quote:Not really. Having dated women with children and known them I think it is wise for a person to keep the parenting and relationship separate until it is clear that the relationship will be for the long haul.
Don't most people know that after a few months? I certainly do. Unless you mean to say that you should wait to until you are on the verge of getting married to this person before you introduce them to your child(ren). Which I don't agree with.
quote:And I personally don't have respect for a woman that would place a stranger above or even on the same level as their child. Family first!!
What I am saying is that if you are going to seriously date this woman (and maybe eventually marry her), she needs to be just as important. You can't continuously give your relationship the shaft and expect it to be healthy. And you certainly shouldn't think of her in terms of being a stranger/outsider to your family whose opinions/views/needs/desires "don't really count" when it comes down to it. There has to be a balance. Otherwise, just sit in the house with your kids and save everyone the hurt feelings/waste of time.
quote:But even then the other person must realize that just because the parent "chose" them the child may not. Hence the father may need to "correct" the child's behavior but he can't MAKE her like the woman.
I understand that and I'm not implying that the parent somehow has that capability. But rudeness should not be excused and/or indulged. Especially not while you're still in the dating phase, because when marriage rolls around that child is going to take it up to notches unknown.