quote:but seems insane for anything that goes beyond a few months.
Not really. Having dated women with children and known them I think it is wise for a person to keep the parenting and relationship separate until it is clear that the relationship will be for the long haul.
The main concern is for the child. If the single parent continues to introduce people to the child as a "potential" parent and the relationship ends as they can and do, it could have an impact on the child.
And I personally don't have respect for a woman that would place a stranger above or even on the same level as their child. Family first!!
Therefore, the person dating the single parent will have to realize and accept that they will not be at the top of the priority list.
Now once the relationship has been established and the two adults feel that it could turn into something serious THEN it would be ok to introduce the child to the other person. But even then the other person must realize that just because the parent "chose" them the child may not. Hence the father may need to "correct" the child's behavior but he can't MAKE her like the woman.