Brotha RR wrote: + I hope that people that take this and use it in heterosexual/functional Black relationships. We got to get back to marriage-focused relationships and families
I agree. And look I know I am a hand full but trust and believe if I didn't have my significant other to hold my hand through the death of my son and all that came with it? I would be CRAZIER than I am now. Marriage takes WORK and commitment. And that's something that have been dismantled in our community.
And you are RIGHT my brotha! We do need to get back to that and understand that we are ALL human beings and not an image projected on the media. It's more than the wedding dress, flowers and the honeymoon. And the funny thing is? Those who fall in love in the beginning of the spiritual attraction only LOSE that admiration when they ALLOW themselves to become distracted[by whatever...doesn't matter what it is]. Cuz distraction is our enemy.
So if you can imagine any scene in the little rascals....where the big boy is holding the hand of the little girl no matter what? That's the foundation of marriage in my opinion. No matter what! And I don't mind saying if it wasn't for that? I would be lost. Seriously. Lost in a nut house somewhere. But I have someone who didn't let go of my hand even though there were times where I couldn't blame him if he had cuz I was nuttier than a fruit cake..and an angry fruit cake at that, But! He never let go....and I am forever grateful for that. It saved my life.
I agree with you and also know that we as the black community must START loving each other once again, courting each other once again and finding joy in being together once again....cuz those are the only ways we can survive not only as a family but as a culture. But!