For me it was always about the woman and the chase, but the woman first. Like I tried to say, I had to be motivated. I mean by something special that she posessed. No..... not always that either. (LOL)
It just seems to me that in my day Brothers had more game and more of a warrior/priests attitude about these things. Rejection of the opening salvo was just the beginning of the game, hell I got more game than my opening and her response to my opening gives me info for my next move. But old school brothers always think they had more. Oh who am I kidding we did have more!! LMAO
And quiet as it's kept the sisters had more too. Maybe it's that confusion I'm reading in your post that's the problem with some of you guys. The thinking that if you are on your game that somehow it's making less of the woman. Not in my crews case. We love and respect women, how many cats do you know who can say the been married 26 years and never cheated?