And...another thing...I hope in the future Sistas will stop hatin'on another Sista regarding her hair "choice." Especially if it's designed to save time. And we all know what that feels like. The reason I bringing this up is because yesterday I ran into a Sista with the "bomb" braids. They were absolutely "beautiful." Of course, I commented on it...and complimented her. She told me she was tired of the salon scene enough to go to braids which took 2 1/2 days....I said "get out!" She replied "yea I know...but. It will last me at least 6 or 8 months if I take care of it right." Like her, I hate to be in those salons...yet I am the type who grow tired early on with the SAME hairstyle. I've had them all...long hair, short hair, pressed hair [will never do again], processed hair [will never do again], curly hair, straight hair, cringled hair, the real/original natural Afro-short and big [not the one kids are currently sportin] braids [of all variations], twists, twist wraps....I did it all. As the young woman was conveying to me...her most important issue is TIME...she had a very busy life and STILL wanted to look GOOD by her STANDARDS, I suddenly realized she was like a lot of us...who basically want to have hair that is easy to manage....no matter what the LOOK. Some sistas can do that pressed/processed hair with no problems...other sistas can do the braids, twist, afro effortless.
We must learn to be ACCEPTING of each other's hair choice and convert this knowledge to be as women on a mission...cuz as women on a mission we TAKE CARE OF OUR FAMILIES the best we can as we look as beautiful as we can. Cuz if we look GOOD we feel GOOD and pass that goodness onto our family. Now I'm not saying pink, purple and green hair is acceptable for ME...but if a Sista is walking down the street sportin this psychadelic[sp] hair style and her children are clean, happy and well behaved...then the Sista is doing her job as a woman/mother Our eyes sometimes stop right at the purple hair instead on moving on to the children who are standing right next to her.
Now I know sometimes there will be women alone [without children] sportin' this rainbow look...but the point is we are soooo quick to jump to conclusions about what WE SEE instead of what we REALLY know. She might be a flower child...who knows. But it's not fair to judge her. And if we DON'T check ourselves, we will join the team of trifling, ghetto and small women who are invisibly JEALOUS and HATIN' over insignificant and beside the point non-issues. And we all know...we're better WOMEN than that. BTW...this point goes for the career woman as well. She may NOT be a mother but she has a time issue...sometimes she's hated upon just cuz she can afford to have a certain "look." We as Black women really need to start evaluating what we do when judging another sista based on hair...cuz it's wrong bottom line. But...JHMO is all.