quote:Originally posted by ladyj:quote:Originally posted by Rowe:quote:Originally posted by Oshun Auset:quote:Originally posted by Khalliqa:
issue four: why is there such a need to justify or minimize the effects of white folx proselytizing the straight haired/wavy haired woman as the standard and its effects on black women? only people I know who do that are crackas and negroes...
The justifications are erking me too... It's either a form of denial or something fishy is goiong on. Maybe it's youth...
Sister Oshun, notice there isn't as nearly as much controversy over hair in the brother's discussion about hair-style choices. Oh the brothers are over there, chattin' it up and happily posting pictures of themselves looking and feeling stress free and worryfree. Get into the Sista's Spot, and here we go wit the drama, shame, and condemnation. I understand and can relate to both sides of the argument, however, and because I try to seek balance in a discussion, I'm not able to take one position over another. But I will make the observation that when it comes to Black womens' hair, we seem to carry the heaviest burden in terms of people expecting us to use our hair to make a political statement. Men have the choice to either keep their hair closely shaven or bald and no one can readily question or challenge the status of their consciousness (lucky them). A Black woman, on the other hand, gets a perm, and BAM!, she's an ignorant sellout. Later on, she decides to sport a fro, and WHAMO! she's credited for being pro-Black. It seems to me the women tend to be their own worst enemies.
which was my whole point in the 1st place.
btw, i think blk men getting those close cuts every week and the doorags to make waves are the same things as blk women straightening their hair. its the blk woman gets all the negativity and condemnation for her choices.
~Why didn't I just say what you two said? Excellence in a nutshell. My reply post looked WAY to chaotic even for me, so I had to break it up, LadyJ, into...I lost count...anyway, didn't mean to hijack. ~