Long hair doesn't mean feminine but because Massa's Ms. Ann didn't know what to do with that mess of hers...she forced slave girls/servants to brush it a hundred times a night or paid her brothel sisters to help her keep it desirable for her "tricks" cuz it was too tangly for her to handle herself. Left on her own, Ms. Ann's hair was mostly in a bun or ponytail...cuz she had no vision about her hair until she noticed the Amerindian girl's long beautiful locs. And did what Massa always do...copied the style especially when she realized Massa liked it [he was always raping Amerindian girls and as a trophy brought back the hair].
As we all know, African women especially Egyptians wore wigs...cuz why? It was tooooo DAMN hot to have all that LONG hair in Africa. A lot of Egyptian women shaved their heads and wore wigs during special events. Or wore braids, twists, locs sometimes during the rare cooler months. It was NEVER a hair thang for African women. NEVER. They adorned the head with amazing headdress i.e crowns and used their hair to weave in beautiful tinkets, beads, gems, etc to glorify whateva Goddess they were worshipping at the time. This hair thang in terms of verfication of beauty is a "MASSA" invention. Cuz why? Don't have anything of significance to verify human worth other than what "he" perceive is worthy and so far it is HAIR and white skin. Cuz why? Massa know or think this is something African/Black women don't have. Wrong! For African people in general, it has always been what's underneath the hair: Knowledge. Culture. Brilliance. Can Massa say the same? Hell No. They just have HAIR. Even during war, some Europeans used to dye their hair RED [I forget which country] cuz they felt it made them more vicious. This hair fetish is massa-made. Cuz Massa have used HAIR to formulate critizism to those who they consider do not fit the criteria of worth. SOOOO silly. Isn't it? But this conditioning works all over the world with many women [with long hair] buying into this psychotic perspective. Now many black women go NUTS over Asian hair, Yak Yak hair, Indian hair cuz they want to be perceived as worthy, desirable and feminine. Not!
For young black girls who struggle over identity, it is crucial to give them a HEALTHY outlook about their hair [I know I've said this before but it's important]. Long hair is Massa mass media of conditioning. Making women believe that they are not dynamic, desirable or feminint [sp] just cuz they do not have that long hair is just asine and pitiful. While it's true there are MANY black women with long hair....but the ridiculous stigma behind it makes the concentration/focus of hair more important than the concentration/focus of having good character. And having good character is far better than having "good" hair. I have found over the years that good hair and its meaning equate: long untangled hair but in reality for many it really is: RI.DIC.ULOUS. and self-hating but at the same time a VERY serious concern in our community.