quote:Originally posted by Oshun Auset:quote:Originally posted by Rowe:
I have to disagree with this, because wearing the hair straight doesn't exempt a Black woman from feeling the effects of racism and colorism. Regardless of the way a Black woman wears her hair, she must deal with the of experiences racism in her community, whether she wants to or not.
This is true, hairstyle doesn't 'exempt' anyone, but the effects are different, as you pointed out...
My friend, who is actually very dark, and beautiful in general(inside and out), get's an entirely different treatment by men now that her hair is short and natural. She used to have pretty long permed hair... past her shoulders, and would receive many a compliment on it... and that frequent 'you are pretty to be so dark' crap. Now that she has a short natural, she is barely approached, and there is no other change to her appearance. I realize I'm in a somewhat racially backwards area... but the effects for her socially have been drastic... and heart wrenching for her.quote:I think a lack of empathy on the part of some participants becomes apparent when those of us who are particularly strong-willed and socially rebellious, refuse to accept that not everyone can psychologically handle the fears and anxieties that inevitably come after making a decision to go completely natural. Simply because some of us may have the courage and rebellious will to follow through on this decision does not mean that everyone does. And if going natural were not "that big of a deal", then would certainly see everyone doing it, but we don't.
But how is discussing and/or mentioning the underlying issues doing this? If anything, I think what Khalliqa laid out, needs to be discussed more. White supremacy and how it functions intra/inter-racially(and it's mechanisms) needs to be discussed in whatever area applicable... No? The rebellious folk are rebellious because they understand the system...no? How can we spread understanding if it is a taboo topic?
~Do you think that the:
-Difficulty in transitioning, and...
-The loss of attractiveness to men
Do you think that these things can have anything to do with just simply feeling more feminine with long hair, rather than without? I mean, for example, don't cancer/chemo patients go through the same thing (black, white, red, yellow) when they lose their hair? I've seen them specifically react to the hair loss and it's very traumatizing for them, and doesn't have any ties to ethnic pride.
Maybe some men feel pretty much the same way about it. Especially a black man. Does he see another short afro, or shaved head, just like his own, yet on his woman....does he find that desirable?~