I'd like you to expand on your comment blackblogger, coz that's not quite what I'm 'hearing' in the previous posts.
I'm hearing there is an invisible shield of miscommunication. And not a lot of opportunity - perhaps - for re-examination.
People dynamics are never cut-and-dried ... let alone gender identity and politics... we are all way too complicated creatures for that.
Something is going hay-wire and it needs to be discussed, and disected and explored. I think it's fantastic that on this site both sexes are walking the talk and trying.