For me, growing up in an all white town i had no choice, but now it's different. The only thing I have ever wanted from men, be they Black White Latino whatever, was respect. Respect me as a female and a person, not someone that you can push around.
I dated several men, black and white, that were disrespectful to and those relationships didn't last long. There was one guy who even went so far as to tell me
"you should be happy that I'm here with you. I could be out with some other girl."
Now why would that make me want to be with you?