quote:Originally posted by powerflower:quote:Too many black women simply hate black men and are holding their past relationships against the next man.
Hating Black men and holding past relationships against the new relationship prospect are two quite different things. I said what I had to say about baggage in a previous post on this thread; suffice it to say that both men and women have baggage from past relationships and if we're honest, at one time or another, we have all probably given another person some undue grief because we were still reeling from the hurt we experienced in the past. However, most Black women LOVE Black men Maybe we don't always show it in ways that would seem appropriate, and the same could be said of Black men.
Often Black women feel like we are carrying the weight of the world on our shoulders (and rightfully so) and we just expect y'all to understand and accommodate us, but we don't always know the best way of going about getting the understanding and affection we really want.
Often Black men feel like you're carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders (and rightfully so) and you just expect us to understand and accommodate you, but you don't always know the best way of going about getting the understanding and affection you really want.
Let's stop beating each other down and try to figure out how we are going to shoulder this weight together
I agree with you, but in a convo like this, it's a battle and both sides need to defend their side