quote:i find that women are being held to a much higher standard than most men
From all the back and forth that we – black men and women – do, it would appear that can be said for both sides.
One rule I think all people should follow is "Don't ask of others what you are not willing or able to do yourself in return".
I always find it funny see a fat, bald, bad dressing brother who has his mind set on dating a super model. We can get a beer belly and look like a dressed up Easter egg but let woman put a little baby weight and men are ready to trade them in.
And then you have women that want a man who is willing and able to do "traditional" women's work like cook and be involved more with the children, as well as make good money and be a "provider" but she can't boil water, got a litter of bad ass, ill mannered, undisciplined children, and no education above high school or professional career.
quote:which leaves many sistas here with two choices: Have a man and be disappointed OR Maintain your standards and be lonely
And I can tell you about brothers in the same boat. Very few women at "his level" and the ones who are have major emotional issues.
But in the end it all boils down to personal responsibility. No one makes a man or a women make the choices they make in life, who they date, have unprotected sex with, jump into relationships whiley barely even knowing the other person, overlook or play dumb to obvious issue a person they are dating is having etc.
I think every person should have to sit down and make a list of all their past relationships and then write how THEY caused it to fail not what the other person did. What could you have done better? In hind sight, did you put "blinders" on in some cases becasue you were so attracted to the other person?
P.S QTY226, you MUST be a model? You always seem to have very nice pictures of yourself. You're very photogenic