quote:Originally posted by Rowe:quote:Originally posted by detroit1:
Sure a man can decide to be a criminal or whore, but why are women dealing with this type?
Perhaps my girlfriend's situation can answer this question for you. She is a very ambitious and determined young woman. However, despite recently being awarded a Master's degree, landing a new job, and buying her first home, she continues to pair herself up with low-aspiring men. Her justification for dating these types of men is that she never wants to turn anyone away for not having what she has. The problem is, she continually finds herself emotionally drained and financially exhausted from having to cover most of the expenses incurred in the relationship. Sure, she keeps a man in her life, but she is often times unhappy with the men she encounters. I don't know what's going in other cities, but in Washington, DC, this is the dilemma with which many sistas are contending. Very few men are earning enough to support families. Many of them have not educated themselves due to poor family backgrounds, parents' low expectations, differential treatment, or poor-performing public schools. Consequently, they are either unemployed or underemployed, which leaves many sistas here with two choices: Have a man and be disappointed OR Maintain your standards and be lonely.
how old is your friend? If she is over 30, then it sounds like she is taking the best deal on the table. I'm from the MD area, educated in DC[Georgetown U], returned to DC after grad school and have found that black women are the least approachable women of the all. Many DC black men agree with me on this. That's why there are so many mixed couples in the surrounding areas, i.e. Northern VA, PG County, Gaitherburg MD, Bethesda MD, and Silver Spring MD...have you ever been to Georgetown?? Adams Morgan?? [ALL HIGH RENT DISTRICTS AND FULL OF PROFESSIONAL BROTHERS] Brothers are available, they just are choosing other.
Also, I think you need to add 'change your funky attitude' to your "Have a man and be disappointed OR Maintain your standards and be lonely." list. Happy New Year!!!