This thread went when we made comments about anything other than dating.
The advice to the individual is important. It ultimately determines which collective units we choose to participate in. If a person refuses to acknowledge that they have issues to resolve (or need for personal growth), how can they can be a productive member of the collective? There has been a lot of "There's nothing wrong with me, you must be the problem!" coming from men & women in this thread. Consequently, it devolved into the normal gender-based bickering.