quote:I was not going to 'assume', that he liked me enough to take our friendship to that point.
It happens, and sometimes its just a lack of communication.
Do things like this happen because of how and when we are socialized – in high school and college?
When we were kids we may have found ourselves in a relationship after only having a few conversations on the phone and after holding hands walking down the hall at school but it should be obvious that it doesn't work for adults.
Why is it that two people will "be together" but be unsure if they "are together"? Why can't or don't people ask a simple basic question – were are we in this relationship? Maybe we do need to use some of our childhood tactics like slipping a note to the person we like with the "Do you like me – check yes, no, or maybe question?"
Why do we get stuck in these long term relationships and still not know "were this is going"?
How about just asking the person.
quote:so why can't our focus be on what can be done to improve it?
And that's the point I was trying to make and why DO we have to play the tit for tat game?
I have to agree with those that disagree that men are single because they want to be. I know men that want to settle down and are looking for the right women. But the prospects seem bleak to them and the reason is that these women come with so much baggage and defensiveness.
So both sides have serious issues – it not JUST the problem that black men are dealing with.