quote:Originally posted by ddouble:
I've asked that same question - it went without answer. There has to be something wrong with you - It's never a fault or rough edge of a woman that's the issue (remember they're perfect)!
Again, you're projecting and exaggerating. No one has said that. What I (and others) repeatedly raise is the lack of any attention on what men's responsibilities/shortcomings are. Everything is laid right at the foot of the woman. Over and over and over again. Women are made responsible for the Black man's piss poor behavior on top of everything else.
Can't find a date? Something must be wrong with you. You're bringing it on yourself.
No one wants to marry you? Something must be wrong with you. You're bringing it on yourself.
Boyfriend/husband treating you poorly? Something must be wrong with you. You're bringing it on yourself.
And then the same old list of "wrongs" are trotted out. "ATTN: Women, You are too fat/strong/weak/poor/rich/accomplished/uneducated/opinionated/shallow/etc."
It's irritating and obnoxious and one has to be remaining purposefully ignorant not to see it. I don't EVER say the problem is ONLY with men. Only let's take a fucking break from clotheslining sistas and pay a little attention to the white elephant in the room.
I don't have any intention of raising up a mate. I don't date "potential." I date people that I am satisfied with for who they are right now.
quote:Issues have been mixed - I only advocate that everyone engage in self-examination. Somehow, that sentiment is interpreted as dismissive, condescending, and anti-woman.
How can you say that, D, when you support threads and articles and sentiments that speak only to what is "wrong" with women?!? Please point out for me where you have discussed what men need to do, what men contribute to the situation, etc.