. . . unless . . . you are suggesting that a woman takes the "diamond in the rough" approach. you've heard of it. find a man with a good heart, and POTENTIAL. then proceed to help him obtain what he needs to be a good mate. for instance, i have relatives who have helped their mates with finding financial assistance for their education, getting a good job and have helped them smooth out otherwise rough edges. i call it "raising your mate". however, the only problem with this is that when we raise someone, it is for the purpose of them being able to leave home and build a life for themselves. i think this is especially true of males. many a woman has "raised" a man only to find that the man no longer wants to be with them when he's "grown" and successful. however, it does work for some women.