quote:Originally posted by Rowe:quote:Originally posted by little minx:
Are you kidding? this forum is awash with women who do feel that it is difficult to find a relationship with a black man. maybe that's not an issue for you and me, but let's not ignore that many women on this forum do feel that finding a man to have a RELATIONSHIP with is difficult.
Again, the problem with the masses of today's Black women not being able to find quality men has less to do with what Black women are doing (or not doing) and MORE to do with the lack of availability of men who are of equal status. That is a reality that my latest article "Relationship Dilemma" addresses, and is a reality that apparently you and Brother Raheem are dismissing.
Frenchy asked the question (paraphrasing) "What is the point of having a "gameplan" when there aren't enough available players?" For example, I can go to church--an obviously nice place to find decent men--with a gameplan, but if men are scarce in the church, my gameplan is useless. But when I go into the county jails and detention units, the drug-infested street corners, the drug and counseling rehab facilities, and the local bars and liquor stores, in those environments, I will find Black men are plentiful! My "gameplan" would be useful in these environments, but what is the probability of any woman wanting to establish relationships with men in those situations, if she is smart? This is why, again, focusing our "gameplan" on African American women is a mistake, because compared to Black men, African American women are doing alright. So lets move on to the real issue. The gameplan should and definitely needs to focus on, first increasing the education, job skills, and job training of Black men so that they will be prepared to lead families and consequently become more attractive options for Black women. Having a mission is fine, but understanding why the mission is necessary in the first place is important.
sorry, i didn't notice that article, where did you post it? i don't mean to ignore it.
supply and demand is a classic issue with all resources, including people and skills. since there is a general agreement that there is a shortage of brothers to date and marry then we need to do two things. 1) we need to address the social issues that put black men in jail, and make them otherwise unavailable to black women. 2) single black women need to develop a PLAN on how they are going to seek out and find single black men. yes, there is a shortage. but, that just strengthens the need for us to be particularly shrewd and smart about the way we seek out men. we can work on assisting black men. this will certainly help the next generation of single black women. but again, that's not going to help the woman who is looking for a mate now.