quote:Originally posted by Frenchy:quote:The dearth of suitable African-American mates is one of these urban myths.
D, I've asked you this before, but didn't get a reply: When is the last time you were looking for a suitable Black man to date??
Your insistense on pushing this thought is dismissive of the body of knowledge that women who are out in the dating world bring to these discussions. You are effectively saying "What you see and experience is a 'myth', a lie, a figment of your imagination."
I don't have to date Black men to recognize that a lot of my brothers are quality people that somehow are not "suitable" for dating & marriage by the determination of (some) Black women. You make it sound like we're all worthless - guess all the good men died in our parent's generation...
I'm not being dismissive - I simply don't agree with the assessment. Define suitable (because if I go to the dictionary, you're going to get upset ). This is at the heart of the issue. If you can't clearly express what you need & want, it's always going to be tough to get it. I will reserve any further commentary until I see "suitable" and "equal status" (or any additional criteria jargon) defined.