quote:Originally posted by Rowe:quote:Originally posted by little minx:
Are you kidding? this forum is awash with women who do feel that it is difficult to find a relationship with a black man. maybe that's not an issue for you and me, but let's not ignore that many women on this forum do feel that finding a man to have a RELATIONSHIP with is difficult.
Again, the problem with the masses of today's Black women not being able to find quality men has less to do with what Black women are doing (or not doing) and MORE to do with the lack of availability of men who are of equal status. That is a reality that my latest article "Relationship Dilemma" addresses, and is a reality that apparently you and Brother Raheem are dismissing.
Frenchy asked the question (paraphrasing) "What is the point of having a "gameplan" when there aren't enough available players?" For example, I can go to church--an obviously nice place to find decent men--with a gameplan, but if men are scarce in the church, my gameplan is useless. But when I go into the jails, detention units, death row, the drug street corners, and the liquor stores, there Black men are plentiful! My "gameplan" would be useful in these environments, but what is the probability of any woman wanting to establish relationships with men in those situations, if she is smart? This is why, again, focusing our "gameplan" on women is a mistake, because compared to Black men, Black women are doing alright. So lets move on to the real issue. The gameplan should and definitely needs to focus on increasing the education, job skills, and job training of Black men so that they will be prepared to lead families and consequently become more attractive options for Black women.
you are assuming that all those 'extra' women are desireable. Very bad assumption. If a single black man [who is childless] seeks the same childless quality in a mate, 3.1 million single Black women are eliminated. What's the ratio of women to men after that simple math is done?? Love is a two way street.
Also, it should be noted that according to the US Census 2003[ http://www.census.gov/prod/2003pubs/p20-541.pdf figure6] that only 18% of black women have a college degree [versus 16% of black men], that's over 80% who do not. The numbers of Black women with degrees are a small minority within that Black woman population. It's not like you are talking about a majority of black women anyway, Essence would lead you to believe that the number is over 90% or something. How now do you explain the 'lack of players' idea in your class based dating system?? It seems like you and others in your camp need to go back to the drawing board for this one.
Still, the 'gameplan' helps because it is better than the 'wait and hope' procedure many Black women are using. A good man is not going to fall out of the sky or may not notice her when she notices him. Be active and do something.