quote:rowe i think the reason these women's magazines focus on these topics is because that's what women are worried about.
Sister, if this is the argument that you are presenting, then my question for you is, is it the editor's job to exacerbate these fears? Should we read and invest into magazines that prey on our fears? Lastly, how is emphasizing, magnifying, and polarizing our fears beyond recognition going to help eliminate our fears, especially when you bombard us with images of people who you say that we should emulate? I once, regrettably, read an article in some stupid women's magazine that titled, "10 Ways To Keep Yor Man Interested In The Bedroom." After reading, I said to myself, "So if I don't perform these 'tricks' for my man in the bedroom, he won't remain interested?" I mean, the advice they were offering was ridicuolous nonsense.
quote:i don't think there is anything wrong with radio raheem posting these articles. but men want to find a solution when they hear us venting.
I don't think there is anything wrong with the brother posting them either. I am simply providng a response to the content of the articles that I am reading, which in my view, is a little patronizing and cheesy. Why do think not very many women are responding???
quote:aren't we as women always complaining about these very topics.
"We" are not complaining about not being able to "get men" in four weeks. I can get a man just by walking out the door if I wanted. I have no problems getting men. What "we" are complaining about is a epidemic that should really concern EVERYONE. A large number of Black men are overcrowding jails, being sentence to death, they are not in the homes raising children, not in schools teaching children, not employed with respectable jobs, not active in the local, national, or global community, etc. This is a COMMUNITY issue on which everyone should have some constructive input and EVERYONE should be working towards solving. This is not a "women's issue." Until we acknowledge and accept that truth, we can accomplish nothing. Therefore, rather than bombard us with a string of topics on how to find a man, bombard the forum with serious topics of concern that will help us rebuild our communities TOGETHER, rather than passing all of the responsibility onto women.