quote:Originally posted by virtue:
I know women like this..... they are not Bimbo's, shallow, lower class etc.... and this is the confusion I think he refers to.... how can some women make such bad choices in a partner?
Sister Virtue, brother Detroit never used the word some to describe his perception of Black women. As far as brother Detroit is concerned, Black women make poor choices in men in general because we're all suffering from what he described as "cognitive dissonance." But the truth is, women from all racial categories make "bad" choices in men, and men do the same. If they didn't, they wouldn't be in here complaining about the unsuccessful choices they've made.
The reason why I'm so disturbed by the ideas being presented in this thread is because I take strong offense to this general perception of women as being these emotionally-unstable, dim-witted, and niave women who require "special guidance." Not surprisingly, this seems to be the chauvinistic perception of women that most men here have adopted, even though they make the very same poor choices. Ironically, when women are going the process of determining what's important in a relationship, we're judged for making "bad choices." When men go through the very same process, they're given a free pass for just "sorting their wild oats." Going around chasing ass is understood to be just apart of "being a man."
And like many men, I've been through a developmental stage in life where I made the mistake of seeking out sistas strictly based on how good the sight of her in tight pants/jeans fit her thighs and ass; I was totally helpless to it.-Detroit