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Don't worry, I'm featuring another beauty in my avatar soon. All I'm saying is you get what you go after. I hate to use myself as an example, because I don't want to be the focus of this disucssion. But admittedly, I'm very image-conscious. Immaculate grooming, quality dress, and making an impression are all very important to me. But every now and again, I get this busted-ass dude looking like "Who done it?" coming up to me asking me out on a date. Why the hell would I want to be seen with someone who can't even keep lint out his hair and cold crust out of his eyes? On one occasion, after telling dude that I definitely was not interested in him, he called me stuck up. Whatever.

Because men are supposedly more visual than women, a mistake they often make when seeking women is to consider a woman's looks first, and the compatibility between himself and the woman later (often times too damn late). In other words, they see a woman who is drop dead gorgeoes, and immediately, they go after her. Never does it dawn on them, however, to ask themselves prior to approaching the woman, What do I have in common with this woman? or Will she find me attractive? Men don't think before they do something, they just impulsively act on picking up a woman, deciding to just "work out the kinks" later. And that is what I don't understand. If you're going to use this method of dating, then don't get mad at us for rejecting you.
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