Good topic detroit1 - Don't let a few haughty, bulldog responses discourage you. Of all places, Black men and women should be able to honestly discuss the phenomena around them at AA.org, especially when it pertains to Black folk. Instead of sweeping things under the rug & denying they happen, we need more honest answers like virtue's. We may not always like the answers, but ultimately we appreciate them.
If anything, detroit1 is asking the sisters here to talk to other sisters, since no one here is guilty of the behavior described. Just like we (men) are constantly implored to get our acts together (even if we aren't guilty of the behavior described by women here) and talk to our wayward brothers, we can ask the same of you.