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Reply to "Cognitive dissonance and the black woman"

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Originally posted by Rowe:
Sister Virtue
Sister Rowe.... How are you? I miss the picture in your avatar of the woman in ceremonial dress and makeup... she was beautiful....

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even though brother Detroit's thread is loaded with sweeping generalizations made about Black women, you should be credited for at least answering his question.
Dear Sister.... I used to be a philosohpy major and English major... If I wanted to pick apart his argument.... I could....

But I sensed pain in his question.... a yearining and confusion.... I decided not to intellectually debate him.... but to offer comfort in understanding.... I simply wanted him to know that his experiences have reasons.... and there are many varied reasons.... mine is one of many....


--Qty's experience is one where some Intelligent Black Women in some twisted logic may actually feel safer with a thug... or someone unemployed because they are intimidated by Successful Black Men.....

--You just described how some women turn to thugs because that is all they have known....

The point is.... he's not off... we are human... we have varied experiences.... no matter how painful..... and in our community of Black women.... we have different tastes, motives... and choices.... He is a man... looking at a phenomenon around him and doesn't understand it.... I simply was hoping to shed a bit of light for him.... not lower the image of Black Women or generalize us.... There are many beautiful Black sisters on this board that are a testament that we are more rich and varied than others may give us credit for... I think the brothers here know this and respect it......


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Everyone prefers to blame rather than discuss the deep underlying issues that cause some people to fall by the wayside.
I see it less as blame... more as "venting" and in all honesty... "trusting" that there will be someone here to help sort through this with him.... I could be wrong.... but nonetheless I don't feel he was blaming Black Women for anything.... People tend to speak in generalizations..... the conundrum is that this isn't always the intention... so I give others the benefit of the doubt.... everyone's true colors show eventually.... and then I change or not change accordingly....



Peace,
Virtue
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