Sadly, I hate to admit it, but I have sisters, female cousins and aunts who exhibit the mind-set & behavior that Virtue is talking about...they view men as either "Geeky" or "Gansta"; they acknowledge this, and make no apologies for it. They seem oblivious to how hypocritical they are, though: when black women achieves academic & socio-economical success, she demands applause & attention from men (that's fair); but when black men achieve this same level of success, they're considered arrogant, conceited, less "black" & less "manly", than that "thug" name Omar who only claim to fame is strutting & grabbing his dick; and my female relatives ALWAYS bitch & moan about how hard it is to find a "good man", yet oblivious to the fact that they are the ones that keep getting in their own way: "I always see Omar with some woman, he triflin' but he cute tho. (Smiling)He stupit...yeah I'd talk to him. ...Michael? He's...nice. He graduted, already?! He's a sharp brotha. He's aw'ight but I need a man with "style" & "strunf" .
You just can't win.