quote:Originally posted by virtue:
I AM STATING THE MENTALITY OF OTHERS THAT I HAVE NOT JUDGED.... Therefore it may seem like a taking their position when I am not.... But I understand it so I can explain it.
Sister Virtue, even though brother Detroit's thread is loaded with sweeping generalizations made about Black women, you should be credited for at least answering his question. However, unfortunately, growing up, some Black women had thugs for fathers, brothers, and uncles. Therefore, for some women, attracting and establishing relationships with professional men can be a difficult challenge. Think about this: How would you know how to relate to so-called "professional men," or just professional people in general, if growing up you've never seen examples of these type of people in your community? You've never seen such people come into your home, have dinner with you and your family members? How would you even begin to know how to communicate and conduct yourself in environments where professional people are commonly found? No one is willing to ponder these questions. Everyone prefers to blame rather than discuss the deep underlying issues that cause some people to fall by the wayside.