Hmmmm... sticking their finger? I might not describe quite like that.... more along the lines of Thugs retaining a measure of their "manhood".... that has tried to be stripped away by this society...quote:Originally posted by art_gurl:
Virtue, thanks for articulating such a foreigh (to me) point of view - theirs, not yours.
Time is tight for me today so let me cut to the chase (I don't have time to read all the other responses, so apologies for that)...
First, just to clarify - you are intimating that these women date thugs because they see thugs - and their relationship with them - as say, 'sticking their middle finger up' at societal controls - in particular (or exclusively) at white priviledge and control?
Sometimes... Not always...quote:If that's the case, I can almost see why women who are more educated do this - because although I am guessing - perhaps despite all their education... as black women they still feel a lack of control in their lives, and feel disenfranchised.
Two questions please...
1. are these women aware that is what they are doing?
They would say giving in to this society is much more damaging to their sense of self worth.... they would rather work with their brother who is a thug and is a man... than work with the people who enslaved us or those trying to fit in well with those that subjugate us.....when they are aware... When they aren't they would say no... I just want to feel like for a moment.... everything is the way it should be.... A thug, again, is not a long term commitment.... they are usually flings.... like a drug habit.... so no, they don't care about the things that you mention (self-worth etc.) they want to feel good for a time...quote:2. and, if so, are they also aware how detriental this behaviour/choice (conscious or otherwise) is to them, their potential mate, their community and their sense of self-worth?