quote:Originally posted by detroit1:
Your statement is under the assumption that people (in this case black women) mean exactly what they say. Maybe they complain just for the sake of complaining (and Mike knows this, but he's getting paid). I don't give people as much credit as you do. I like to weigh peoples voiced concerns against their actions/behavior. That is why I used the term cog. dis. to explain this contradiction.
Don't let one sista's conjured-up explanation mislead you into thinking that the judgements you've made about Black women are accurate. The subjective judgements that you're making about Black women are not based on facts, but your own personal observations, which perhaps, reveals something about the type of women to whom you are attracted. As I've said before, I don't date thugs, and I have never been attracted to thugs. My parents would never even have allowed me to bring a "thug" into our home. Therefore, you are conversing with one of many Black woman whose actions are in line with our beliefs. Now would you consider me an exception, an anomaly, an aberration of some sort? If so, then produce documented evidence proving that being "cognitive dissonant" is a psychological problem that plagues the majority of Black women. Women on this site have done our research. We have supplied articles, published research, statistics, and data supporting the arguments that we've been making about the scarcity of successful Black men. Where is your evidence, proving that the majority of Black women's inability to find successful Black men is a result of their being attracted to thugs?