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I've waited to repsond to some of the things posted because I wanted to think about my reasoning for my choice. Now I can't say that my choice has anything to do with religion or thinking that by beinging a virgin I am holy or clean, it's not. I respect people who have different views than mine and I think that it's your own choice and that you have to do what;s right for you. In the past few days I've been thinking about that more and more. That I have to do what's right for me just like they have to do what's right for them.
But the more I think about my choice, the more I am able to respond truthfully. The reason I have decided to stay a virgin is really out of fear. Not the fear of being in a sexual relationship, but the fear of not being cherished. The women in my life have all given it away before marriage and the result has been disasterous for them. My fear is borne of that. I don't want to end up like more than half of the girls I went to high school with. The ones who had dreams and ambition, but are now stuck flipping burgers because they got pregnant and gave up. To me my virginity is something I hold close to my heart. When i give it to whom ever I chose I want...no I need to know that they LOVE ME, not what's between my legs. In my neighborhood girls give themselevs away to freely and then reap the consequences by themseleves. I don't want that. I guess I just figure that if he can wait with me then he can get to know me. So then when I give myself to him he won't take it lightly.
Now that's what I wanted to say. Oh Huey... for me the guy doesn't have to have been a virgin. I like to think that our connection will be much deeper than sex. And the greatest gift that a man could give me is...understanding, cherishing, respect, and thoughfulness(All the things I don't get very much).
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