Why Are We Still Equating Virginity With Purity???
However, if she ever does decide to activate her sex life, I say, do not subsequently burden yourself down with resentment and regrets. Being a virgin (or not a virgin) does not define who you are as a person. That is why I feel sorry for the woman who feels as if she has somehow lost her very essence after having sex because her self-worth and self-esteem is intimately tied to her virginity. This woman would benefit from knowing that women are much more than what's between our legs. And we have lots more to contribute to our world than our bodies and sex. Knowing this has prompted me to develop a strong opposition to the moral and social expectation for women to remain virgins until marriage, which in my opinion, is an obsolete and chauvinistic sexual imposition that has been created in the best interest of men. And as long as we maintain these antiquated views that tell us being a virgin makes us more "righteous," "clean" and "holy" than the those who are not, we will continue to unecessarily feel guilt and shame for enjoying an active sex life. It is equally important for us to realize that having an active sex life does NOT have to mean becoming promiscuous. What makes a person "pure" are their good deeds, integrity, honesty, unselfishness, and enthusiasm for life, NOT whether or not they can abstain from sex for longer periods than others.
I'm not trying to change your religious views, mind you, I'm just sharing my values and perspective as well. It's your life, and so you still must do what is best for you sister.