Black Women and the Myth of the White Knight

 
September 21, 2012 2:37 PM

Black Women and the Myth of the White Knight

http://www.theroot.com/buzz/bl...nd-myth-white-knight

 
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Sil Lai Abrams, Ebony's relationship expert, says that black women overwhelmed by sensationalist messages about their prospects for love (or lack thereof) should date whomever they want but should resist falling for the pop-culture myth of the white man as a savior.

... I'm a Black woman who has dated White, Hispanic and Black men. From my years of field research, I can assure you that a White man can be just as commitmentphobic, misogynistic and unreliable as a Black one. As disappointing as this may be to the sistas who have bought into the Myth of the White Knight, Black men do not have the market cornered on shady relationship behavior.

It is worth noting that Black women married to White men do have lower divorce rates than their Black/Black counterparts. However, I doubt this is because White men are easier to control then their Black counterparts. Maybe these marriages fare better because many who are willing to cross the color line have a mindset that is more flexible and open minded, qualities that are essential to the success of a long-term union?

For the record, I'm not anti-interracial relationships; however, I am against "solutions" that villainize Black men and victimize Black women while simultaneously deifying White men. Isn't it time that we stop uplifting the White man as savior?

I can't say what the answer is to the "Black Female Thunderbolt Phenomenon", but if you find that if you're regularly having problems in your relationships with Black men, dating a White one won't guarantee that you'll get a different outcome. If that’s the case, it's worth considering that maybe the reason you're consistently having problems of commitment in your relationships with Black men has absolutely nothing to do with the men.

 

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September 21, 2012 6:36 PM

I doubt that many Black women ever see a White man as their savior in the first place.  I don't know where they are getting all this.  99% of African American women will not even date a White man in the first place, usually have not desire to and instinctively know that White racism is not yet far enough removed for most African American women to get past the enslavement, abuse, torture Black people have suffered at the hands of predominately the White male.

 
 
 
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September 22, 2012 8:30 AM

Originally Posted by sunnubian:

I doubt that many Black women ever see a White man as their savior in the first place.  I don't know where they are getting all this.  99% of African American women will not even date a White man in the first place, usually have not desire to and instinctively know that White racism is not yet far enough removed for most African American women to get past the enslavement, abuse, torture Black people have suffered at the hands of predominately the White male.

http://www.singleblackmale.org...omen-date-white-men/

 
 
 
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September 23, 2012 9:22 PM

Originally Posted by sunnubian:

I doubt that many Black women ever see a White man as their savior in the first place.  I don't know where they are getting all this.  99% of African American women will not even date a White man in the first place, usually have not desire to and instinctively know that White racism is not yet far enough removed for most African American women to get past the enslavement, abuse, torture Black people have suffered at the hands of predominately the White male.

Exactly. So it makes me pause to think who is pushing this agenda of black women marrying white men? I think whoever is doing this is clearly trying to genetically wipe us out. Sisters ain't going for it though.

 
 
 
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April 26, 2013 7:54 AM

Originally Posted by RadioRaheem:

RadioRaheem, do you hate your mother?

 
 
 
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April 26, 2013 12:30 PM

Originally Posted by Yemaya:
Originally Posted by RadioRaheem:

RadioRaheem, do you hate your mother?

 

 

 

I love my mom and my dad...they were excellent parents and excellent example of Black on Black love.  

 

 

question for you...are Black women above criticism??

 
 
 
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